Choosing wedding vendors goes wrong in three predictable ways: booking in the wrong order, comparing quotes that don't cover the same things, and signing a contract that leaves out something you were promised. This guide deals with each one, in the order you'll meet them.
Start with the planner below. Tick the vendors you need, add your budget and date, and it gives you a suggested budget, a booking order and a list of questions to copy or print.
The shares and timings in the planner are averages from the sources listed at the bottom of this page. Your area, season and guest count will move them, so use them as a starting point.
How To Choose a Wedding Vendor in Seven Steps
- Set a working budget below the most you could ever spend, and pick your top two priorities.
- Book the venue and date first, because every other booking depends on them.
- Shortlist three vendors in each category from recommendations, reviews and full examples of their work.
- Send the same brief and ask the same questions on a first call.
- Compare quotes line by line, on the same hours, services and guest count.
- Read the contract for red flags and get every promise in writing.
- Negotiate what you can honestly adjust, then pay the deposit and put every payment date in your calendar.
The Order To Book Your Wedding Vendors
Book in the order that other bookings depend on. The venue sets your date and guest limit, and some venues have their own caterer or a list of approved vendors. Photographers, videographers and planners can only work one wedding on a given day, so they go early. Smaller services come later, because they can usually fit you in.
The table shows typical ranges, in months before the wedding, from WeddingWire and The Wed, with the typical share of the budget. A popular date or a busy season means starting earlier.
| Vendor | Book | Typical share of budget |
|---|---|---|
| Venue | 12 to 18 months before | 22% |
| Caterer | 9 to 12 months before | 22% |
| Photographer | 9 to 12 months before | 8% |
| Videographer | 9 to 12 months before | 3% |
| Wedding planner | 9 to 12 months before | 5% |
| Hair and makeup | 6 to 12 months before | 2% |
| Florist | 8 to 10 months before | 9% |
| Stationery | 8 to 10 months before | 2% |
| DJ or band | about 9 months before | 6% |
| Cake or desserts | 6 to 9 months before | 2% |
| Officiant | about 8 months before | 2% |
| Rentals | about 6 months before | 4% |
| Transport | about 5 months before | 2% |
If you hire every vendor in the table, the shares come to about 89 percent. The rest covers attire, rings, favors and a buffer. If your venue includes catering, you can skip the separate caterer. Ask what the venue's price covers before you start looking.
Set the Budget Before You Call Anyone
Quotes mean nothing until you know what you can spend. Pick a total you won't go over, then work to a lower figure. WeddingWire's budget guide suggests a working budget of 75 to 85 percent of your do-not-exceed number, to leave room for costs you can't predict. Joy and Giftlist both recommend holding back 5 to 10 percent as a buffer.
Then choose your top two priorities. If food matters most, put the money there and spend less on flowers. If photos matter most, book the photographer you love and trim the music budget. The shares are averages, so they should shift to fit what you care about.
The averages come from a WeddingWire survey of 10,474 recently married US couples, checked against ranges from Joy and Giftlist. Venue and catering take the biggest slice. Joy puts the two at 40 to 50 percent of the total, and the WeddingWire figures for the same two come to 53 percent.
How To Build a Wedding Vendor Shortlist
Aim for three real options in each category. With fewer than three you can't tell whether a price is fair. Past five, you mostly add confusion.
Where To Find Wedding Vendors
- Your venue's vendor list. They know the room. Ask if you must use it or can choose others.
- Couples you know who married recently, especially for the officiant, photographer, videographer and caterer.
- Vendors you've already booked. A photographer often knows a good florist or DJ.
- Review sites and local directories, used to build the list, not to make the final choice.
What To Check Before You Ask for a Quote
- Availability. Email the date, location, guest count and hours before you book a call, so nobody wastes time.
- Full work, not highlights. Ask for a whole gallery, menu or set from a wedding like yours.
- Insurance and licences. Many venues ask outside vendors for proof of liability insurance, so ask who holds it.
- Style fit. Look at ten examples, not the best three.
How To Read Wedding Vendor Reviews
Read the three and four star reviews first. They tend to be the most specific. Look for details you could check, such as the venue name, what went right or wrong and how the vendor replied. A run of near-identical five-star reviews posted in the same week deserves a second look.
Check more than one site, and ask the vendor for two recent couples you can contact yourself. How a vendor answers a bad review shows how they'll handle a problem on your day.
What To Ask a Wedding Vendor on the First Call
Send every vendor the same brief: date, location, guest count, hours of coverage and your budget range. Then ask the same eight questions.
- Are you free on our date and for these hours? (Give the date, location, guest count and hours.)
- What packages and prices do you offer for a wedding like ours?
- What is included, and what costs extra?
- How much is the deposit, and when are the remaining payments due?
- What are the cancellation and rescheduling terms?
- Who will actually work our wedding?
- What is your backup plan if you are ill or something fails?
- Can you send a sample contract and put us in touch with a recent couple?
Write the answers in one place so you can compare them later.
How To Compare Wedding Vendor Quotes
A cheaper quote is often a smaller one. Before you compare totals, put the quotes on the same footing. Each one should list:
- hours of service, plus set-up and breakdown time
- the number of staff or performers
- exactly what is supplied, with quantities
- delivery, travel or parking charges
- the overtime rate per hour
- taxes, service charge and gratuity
- the deposit, and every payment date
- anything charged separately
If a quote is missing any of these, ask for a revised one. Don't compare a package price with a price that leaves out tax or service.
Wedding Vendor Scorecard
Score each vendor from 1 to 5 on every row, multiply by the weight, and add up the total. If two vendors tie, choose the one you trusted more on the call.
| Criterion | What to check | Weight |
|---|---|---|
| Style fit | A full example of their work from a wedding like yours | 2 |
| Availability | Confirmed for your date and hours, in writing | 2 |
| Total price | On the same brief, with tax and service included | 2 |
| What is included | Hours, staff, items, delivery and set-up | 1 |
| Contract terms | Cancellation, overtime, backup plan and deliverables | 2 |
| Reviews | Recent, specific, and answered well when negative | 1 |
| Communication | Clear answers and quick replies | 1 |
| Insurance and licences | Proof of what the venue or law requires | 1 |
Wedding Vendor Contract Red Flags
Read every contract before you pay a deposit. This is general guidance, not legal advice, so for a large contract it can be worth having a lawyer read it. These are the clauses and gaps that cause the most trouble.
| Red flag | Why it matters | What to ask for |
|---|---|---|
| No written contract, or "we'll sort it by email" | Promises that aren't written down are hard to enforce. | A signed contract that lists everything you were told. |
| Refund terms that cover only your cancellation | You should know what happens if the vendor cancels or can't attend. | Written refund terms for a vendor cancellation. |
| Vague deliverables, such as "full coverage" or "as needed" | Two people can read the same words differently. | Hours, quantities and delivery dates written out. |
| No overtime or extra-hour rate | A late timeline can turn into a surprise bill. | The hourly rate written into the contract. |
| No backup plan for illness or equipment failure | One person or one machine becomes a single point of failure. | A named replacement or a clear remedy. |
| Silence on events outside anyone's control, such as severe weather or a venue closure | You need to know how payments and dates are handled if the event can't go ahead. | The force majeure clause explained, with rescheduling terms. |
| Pressure to sign or pay today | A good vendor will give you time to decide. | A written quote that stays valid for a set number of days. |
| A different person does the work from the one you met | You hired a style, which belongs to a person. | The name of the person who will attend, in the contract. |
| No insurance, or a refusal to show it | The venue may not let them work, and you carry the risk. | A copy of the certificate if the venue asks for one. |
Whatever the vendor, the contract should name:
- both parties and their contact details
- the date, start and end times, and the address
- the services and products, with quantities
- the total price, the deposit and every payment date
- the cancellation, refund and rescheduling terms
- the overtime rate
- the backup plan
- the delivery date for photos, film, flowers, stationery or anything else you receive
Questions To Ask Each Type of Wedding Vendor
Ask the first-call questions above, then these. The planner at the top of the page holds the same lists, and you can copy or print the ones for the vendors you've ticked.
Questions To Ask a Venue
- Is our date free, and is anything else booked at the venue that day?
- What does the hire price include: tables, chairs, linen, staff, set-up and clean-up?
- Do we have to use your caterer, bar or approved vendors, and is there a fee for outside ones?
- What time does the event have to finish, and what happens if we run over?
- What is the plan and the backup space if the weather turns?
- What are the payment dates, the cancellation terms and the rescheduling policy?
- Do outside vendors need to show proof of insurance?
Questions To Ask a Caterer
- Is the price per person, and does it include staff, service charge, tax and rentals?
- Can we have a tasting before we sign, and does it cost extra?
- How do you handle allergies, vegetarian and vegan guests, and children's meals?
- When is the final guest count due, and can the number change after that?
- How many servers will work our wedding, and who handles set-up and clean-up?
- Who supplies the alcohol, and do you hold the licences and insurance the venue requires?
Questions To Ask a Photographer
- Are you free on our date, and will you shoot it yourself or send an associate?
- How many hours of coverage are included, and what does an extra hour cost?
- Can we see a full gallery from a wedding like ours, the whole day, not a highlight reel?
- How many edited photos do we get, and how long until we have them?
- Who owns the copyright, and do we get a print release and full-resolution files?
- What is your backup plan for illness, a camera failure or a lost memory card?
Questions To Ask a Videographer
- What does the final film include: a highlights film, the ceremony, the speeches, a full-length edit?
- How many cameras and operators will be there, and how is the audio recorded?
- How long until delivery, and in what format: download, USB, online link?
- Can we choose the music, and how is it licensed?
- How long do you keep our raw footage, and what does it cost to get it later?
- What is your plan if you are ill or the equipment fails?
For what to look for in the film itself, read how to choose a wedding videographer.
Questions To Ask a Wedding planner
- What do you do: full planning, partial planning or day-of coordination, and what is left out?
- How is your fee set (flat, percentage or hourly), and when is it paid?
- Do you earn commissions or referral fees from vendors, and how do you disclose them?
- How will you work with vendors we have already booked?
- Will you be at our wedding yourself, and how many weddings do you run that weekend?
- Can we speak to two couples you worked with recently?
Questions To Ask a Hair and makeup
- Do you offer a trial, and is it charged separately?
- How long does each person take, and how many people can you do on the morning?
- Is there a travel charge or an early-start surcharge?
- Can you show work on skin tones and hair types like ours?
- Do you stay for touch-ups, and what does that cost?
- Which products do you use, in case of allergies?
Questions To Ask a Florist
- What does our budget buy: bouquet, buttonholes, ceremony flowers, centerpieces?
- Which flowers are in season on our date, and what would you substitute if something is unavailable?
- Are delivery, set-up and collection included, and what is the cost?
- Do you charge a deposit or rental for vases, stands and arches, and what if one breaks?
- When does the flower order become final, and when can we still change it?
- How will the flowers hold up in heat or outdoors?
Settle your look first, because it shapes every quote. Our guide to popular wedding decoration styles helps you decide.
Questions To Ask a Stationery
- What is included: design, proofs, printing, envelopes, postage?
- How many rounds of proofs do we get, and what are the print deadlines?
- How long are production and shipping?
- Who pays for a reprint if there is a typo in a proof we approved, and if there is one in your work?
- Do you offer address printing and assembly?
Ask for the RSVP deadline to be printed with enough time to chase late replies. Our RSVP reminder wording helps when you do.
Questions To Ask a DJ or band
- Are you free on our date, and how long will you play?
- Can we watch a recording or see you at a real event like ours?
- Will you follow a must-play and a do-not-play list, and do you take requests?
- What equipment do you bring (sound and lighting), and what do you need from the venue (power, space)?
- Who plays if the lead performer is ill, and do you have a backup?
- Do you also run announcements and the timeline as MC?
- What does overtime cost per hour?
The DJ or MC also runs your entrances, so plan them together: see entrance ideas for the bridal party and entrance songs for parents.
Questions To Ask a Cake or desserts
- How many servings does it feed, and is the price per slice or per cake?
- Can we taste the flavors, and do you make allergen-free options?
- Is delivery and set-up included, and who is responsible once it is on site?
- How late can we change the size or flavors?
- How will it hold up in heat or outdoors?
Questions To Ask a Officiant
- Are you authorized to marry us in this location, and what paperwork do we need?
- Can we meet first, and how much say do we have over the wording of the ceremony?
- Is a rehearsal included?
- What is the fee, and does it include travel and filing the paperwork?
- Are there limits on readings, vows or music?
Questions To Ask a Rentals
- What is the total with delivery, set-up, collection and cleaning fees?
- What is the breakage and damage policy, and when do we pay for losses?
- Are the items reserved for our date, and when is the final count due?
- What times are delivery and pick-up, and do they fit the venue's access hours?
- Can you confirm table sizes and linen measurements before we place the final order?
For plates, glasses and cutlery, see what renting dishes costs before you request quotes.
Questions To Ask a Transport
- Is the vehicle licensed and insured for hire, and can you show proof?
- What are the hourly rate, the minimum hours and the waiting-time charge?
- How many passengers fit, and can we see the actual vehicle?
- What happens if the vehicle breaks down?
- Do fuel, the driver's tip and tolls come in the price?
How To Negotiate With Wedding Vendors
You can negotiate, but the best results come from changing what you buy, not from haggling over the price of the same thing.
- Ask what can come out. Fewer hours of coverage, a smaller package or one less course can cut the price without hurting the day.
- Be flexible on the date. Fridays, Sundays and off-season dates often cost less than a peak Saturday.
- Ask about bundles. If one vendor offers two services, ask what the bundle saves compared with booking them separately.
- Ask for value instead of a discount. An extra hour or an extra item often costs the vendor less than a lower price.
- Be honest about your budget. Give a range and ask what it buys. Don't quote a rival's price that you don't actually have.
- Put every change in writing, including the revised total.
If the answer is no, say thank you. A polite no keeps the door open if you change your mind.
DIY or Hire a Wedding Vendor
Hire a professional for jobs that are hard to redo, need specialist kit or carry safety or legal risk. Do the personal, low-risk jobs yourselves.
| Usually hire | Usually fine to DIY | Depends on your skill and time |
|---|---|---|
| Photography and film | Favors and signs | Flowers |
| Food and drink service | Table numbers and place cards | Cake |
| Music and sound | Simple stationery | Hair and makeup |
| The officiant | Some decor | Transport |
DIY saves money but costs time in the last few weeks. Count your own hours before you decide it's cheaper, and give every DIY job a named person and a deadline. For ideas, see our tips for making your own wedding favors.
Related reading: how to choose a wedding videographer, special wedding dates (a popular date can limit who is free) and RSVP reminder wording. More guides are in the wedding vendors section.
Frequently Asked Questions
How many wedding vendors should I contact before booking?
Ask three for a quote in each major category: venue, photographer, caterer and music. With fewer than three you can't tell whether a price is fair, and past five you mostly add confusion. Send every vendor the same date, guest count and hours so the quotes can be compared line by line.
When should I book each wedding vendor?
Book the venue first, usually 12 to 18 months out. Photographer, videographer, planner and caterer follow at about 9 to 12 months, then the florist at 8 to 10 and the DJ or band at about 9. Cake, hair and makeup, and rentals can wait until 6 to 9 months out. Popular dates and busy seasons need earlier booking.
Which wedding vendor should I book first?
The venue. It fixes your date and guest limit, and some venues have their own caterer or an approved vendor list. Photographers, videographers and planners can work only one wedding a day, so they come next.
How much should I budget for each wedding vendor?
As a guide, a WeddingWire survey of 10,474 couples puts venue and rentals at about 29 percent of the budget, catering, dessert and alcohol at 24, photography and video at 10, flowers and decor at 9, and music at 6. Joy and Giftlist give similar ranges. Treat these as averages and shift them toward your priorities.
What should a wedding vendor contract include?
Names and contact details, the date, start and end times, the address, the exact services and quantities, the total price, the deposit and payment dates, cancellation and refund terms, the overtime rate, a backup plan and the delivery date for anything you receive. If a promise isn't in the contract, treat it as not promised.
What questions should I ask a wedding vendor on the first call?
Ask if they are free on your date and hours, what the packages cost, what is included and what costs extra, how much the deposit is and when the rest is due, the cancellation terms, who will actually work your wedding, what the backup plan is, and whether they can send a sample contract and a recent couple's contact.
How can I tell whether vendor reviews are real?
Read the three and four star reviews first, because they tend to be the most specific. Look for details you can check, such as the venue and what the vendor did. Check more than one site, and ask the vendor for two recent couples you can contact yourself.
What are red flags in a wedding vendor contract?
No written contract, vague deliverables, no overtime rate, no backup plan, refund terms that protect only the vendor, silence on what happens if the event can't go ahead, pressure to sign today, and a different person doing the work from the one you met.
Is it okay to negotiate with wedding vendors?
Yes, if you do it honestly. Ask what can come out of a package, whether a weekday or off-season date costs less, what a bundle saves, and whether a different payment schedule is possible. Don't quote a rival's price you don't have, and put every change in writing.
Which wedding vendors can I do myself?
Favors, signs, table numbers and simple stationery are the usual DIY jobs. Hire professionals for photography, film, food service, music and the officiant, because they're hard to redo. Flowers, cake and hair and makeup depend on your skill and how much time you have.
Final Thoughts
Choosing vendors is a run of small decisions: set a budget, book in order, shortlist three, compare like with like, and read the contract. Take them one at a time and most of the stress goes.
Start with the planner above, send your first brief this week, and keep every answer in one place.
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